Dying A Little Each Day

As the world is still mourning the passing of Steve Jobs, I began to read about the quotes and wise words this truly remarkable man spoke towards the end of his life. At the end of the day, what truly mattered to this great American visionary wasn’t the billions he’d made, the innovations he’d brought to the marketplace nor the great company he’d built to this day. What truly mattered to him is found in these two quotes:

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important thing I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” ~ Steve Jobs

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Knowing What You Want Gives Clarity and Purpose

Let’s revisit the first question in yesterday’s post “What do you want?” again.

Recently, I sat in a planning meeting with a group of young committees of a local organization. In the middle of an agenda, the leader stated adamantly who he doesn’t want to work with and what he doesn’t want to experience again because of a past fallout. But when asked what is it that he really wants for this team to achieve, he paused silently and thought for a while, and then simply uttered a blank “errrmmm….”.

I wasn’t sure if the leader provided any useful direction to his project team in the first place. It could have helped if he explicitly expressed his intentions and purpose to clarify the main objectives and the desired outcomes.

It’s like providing a road map without knowing where to go; the leader was telling his team where not to go and what not to do, but didn’t state the destination and how to get there! Did he know his desired destination in the first place? I really couldn’t tell! He was more driven to avoid past pains than to move towards something new. Fine. Maybe he had learned something useful from his past undertakings which had shaped his present approach, but his team doesn’t know the pain and didn’t need to. They didn’t need to know something unknown to move away from, but something to move towards to. Something clear, so they could fix their eyes on the target. Isn’t that more useful?

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2 Fundamental Questions to Answer in Becoming Unstoppable

There really are just 2 questions that we need to answer to have what we want in life:

1) What is it that I want?

2) So, what’s stopping me from having what I want?

If we can truly answer the 2 questions, then, there’s nothing in life that can get in our way to stop us from having what we want.

 

What Do You Want?

Back to the first question, what is it that you truly, really want? Many times when asked that, people would say I want a better job, more money, a raise, a good-looking partner, bigger house and car, a nice vacation to escape from whatever they’re going through etc. If we honestly look deep within, we would not really want these things, but what these things can make us feel. ┬áThe feeling of being recognized, of owning bigger things, of feeling important or feeling more secured, comfortable etc.

 

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