“What Else Could It Mean?”

Have you ever been negatively affected by comments and remarks made by people, or after an unpleasant conversation? If what someone says something that you don’t like or hurt you in some ways, what do you do? You enact a whole scene of anger in your mind! You envision yourself getting upset; you shout at him and tell him some not so nice things. Sometimes people spend hours in such negative, destructive inner dialogues.

Sometimes, these inner dialogues bring about a snowball effect. The more we conduct them, the more we become chained to them and unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked, more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior, judgment and general well-being.

One of the useful strategies I like to use to turn things around is to ask myself this powerful question, “What else could it mean?”

 

"What Else Could It Mean?"

"What Else Could It Mean?"

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Unexpected Problems = Unscheduled Practice

We all face adversities in life we do not expect, “accidents” that throw us off our track. We can choose to view them as obstacles that prevent us from getting what we want or we can choose to ‘reframe’ and view them quite differently.

In the film Batman Begins, Bruce Wayne deliberately got himself thrown into a prison to fight criminals behind locked doors. There were many quotable lines in the film, but there’s one part I really liked that inspired me immensely.

 

Bruce Wayne in Prison

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Choosing the Path of Personal Power (Part 3) – Terry Fox

In my last post, I wrote that many people who see themselves as failures in life tend to have the victim’s mindset and surrender their personal power to circumstances and people around them. Today I’ll write on one exemplary story which is of the total opposite.

This is the inspiring story of Terry Fox.

You may have heard of the Terry Fox run, an annual charity non-competitive marathon event held in numerous countries around the world in commemoration of Canadian cancer activist Terry Fox, and his Marathon of Hope, and to raise money for cancer research. Do you know how the Terry Fox story began?

 

Marathon of Hope

Terry Fox in action

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Choosing the Path of Personal Power (Part 2)

‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.’ ~ Viktor E. Frankl

The above quote by Viktor Frankl is one of my all-time favorite and best describe what Personal Power means. I had to read it several times to fully digest its meaning when I first read it years ago.

In yesterday’s post, I defined Personal Power as the ability to choose and act. Everyday in our lives, we’re bombarded by tons of stimulus that trigger our habitual actions. Many times we react automatically to those stimulus without consciously choosing our response or choice of actions.

power to choose

Space = Power to Choose

 

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