Are You Living In Your Strengths?

One of the most invaluable discoveries you can ever find out about yourself is your strengths. If you’re truly able to answer “What are my strengths?”, you’re on your way to fulfilment and satisfaction in work and life.

Two years ago, I came across the StrengthsFinder 2.0 book which was also a ‘strengths’ assessment system. The key take away of the book is this: Your talents are enduring and unique, and your greatest potential for growth is in the area of your greatest strength.

Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned to think first of identifying our weaknesses. For example, parents usually point out the areas in the report card where their children need to improve. All self-improvement books focus on improving our weak spots.

 

Flexing my strengths

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Boost Your Confidence by Asking Empowering Questions

We all have ample of self-confidence within at all times, but we may not feel it all the time. Surely you can think of instances in the past when you had personal power and felt immensely confident. The key is to be able to summon the necessary confidence whenever you want it.

Whenever you’re hesitant ask yourself this, “What is stopping me from having or doing what I want?” This question will shift your frame of mind, internal dialogue and change your internal state into a more confident state.

 

Are you asking Empowering Questions?

 

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Process vs Result

Here’s a thought and question to ponder, to feed your mind. Recently I saw a post on Facebook asking public opinions on which is more important for performance: Process or Result?

Naturally, a question like this will draw attention to vote for one or the other. When I paused and pondered on the question for a while, I thought that both process and result are very much inseparable. The question shouldn’t be which is more important, it should be which is more important to focus on? I also thought that result is the outcome of doing the right processes well. I joined the discussion and gave my two cents by commenting:

Results will take care of themselves when the right processes are done rightly. Here’s a Jim Rohn quote, “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day; while failure is simply a few errors in judgment, repeated every day.”

After giving it more thought I’m convinced that focusing on processes is THE KEY to peak performance. In this blog post, I’ll elaborate more by using an example from my peak performance experience.

process vs results

 

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How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician (Maxim #4)

Two more maxims to go. Today, we’re already on Maxim #4. To read on my earlier posts on the series, here’s Maxim #1, Maxim #2 and Maxim #3.

 

Maxim Four: Practice, Practice, Practice

One of the lessons that all magicians learned early on is to make the difficult look simple. And the only way to do that is through lots of practice. Mastery is only a matter of practice away. And they have to put in the hours to reach the level of mastery to be confident in front of the crowd.

Done poorly, a magic trick can be seen across the room. Done well, it’s invisible even to the person nearest to the magician. To do that, his technique has to be so effortless that there’s no “tell”, no extra tension in the muscles of his hands. Truly invisible.

That’s what magicians do. They devote many years of their lives to practice so hard to perfect techniques that no one can see! They use the mirrors, they use video recordings, and they use real people to practice with. Until they develop the right habits in movement, that they can flow effortlessly during performances.

Nobody wants to watch a performer make something difficult looks difficult. The audience won’t have much confidence in the performer. They like to see perfection, they like to enjoy masterpieces, they expect you to be at your peak and at the top of your game. To wow them at every performance.

How does a top magician like Steve Cohen practice? In his book, he let his readers in on his secret practice routines. Here’s a summary:

 

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