The TEFCAS Success Formula

Have you failed many times in life? Do you know that failure can actually be a very good thing? Failure is actually an integral part of learning and growth. In fact, I like the saying in NLP that ‘there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback’.

no such thing as failure

Failure = Feedback

I first came across the TEFCAS Success Formula from one of Tony Buzan’s mind-mapping books. Once you understand the TEFCAS formula, you’ll realize that it’s actually our natural way of learning and getting better in whatever areas that we want to master. Many things that we’ve learned in life were mastered through failures, we weren’t born with those skills eg. riding a bike, playing sports, even walking.

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“What Else Could It Mean?”

Have you ever been negatively affected by comments and remarks made by people, or after an unpleasant conversation? If what someone says something that you don’t like or hurt you in some ways, what do you do? You enact a whole scene of anger in your mind! You envision yourself getting upset; you shout at him and tell him some not so nice things. Sometimes people spend hours in such negative, destructive inner dialogues.

Sometimes, these inner dialogues bring about a snowball effect. The more we conduct them, the more we become chained to them and unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked, more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior, judgment and general well-being.

One of the useful strategies I like to use to turn things around is to ask myself this powerful question, “What else could it mean?”

 

"What Else Could It Mean?"

"What Else Could It Mean?"

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Take Responsibility For Your Life

Last weekend, I searched through my list of old DVDs to see which movie to pop into the player while I was doing something else, and out came Rocky Balboa (2006). The first time I watched it, I didn’t get pass the first half of the film due to interruptions. I had been procrastinating to watch the second half of the movie for a quite a long while!

I was actually multi-tasking when watching Rocky Balboa this time, but a scene captured me. It was the scene where Rocky and his junior was talking and then his son said he’s ashamed of what the dad was doing by coming out of retirement to box. Rocky Junior was ashamed of what people might say while his dad was chasing after his dream of making an unlikely comeback. What Rocky said to his son shook me on the inside.

never give up

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Choosing The Path of Personal Power (Part 4) – “Who You Choose To be?”

I watched Kung Fu Panda 2 earlier this week and thoroughly enjoyed it. In the midst fun-filled, fast-paced action animation, there are heart-warming lessons to inspire both children and adults alike too.

At the start of Kung Fu Panda 2, Po was living his dream of fighting alongside the famous Furious Five, legendary kung fu masters. As the The Dragon Warrior, Po was protecting the Valley of Peace daily against the bad guys. But Po’s new life of awesomeness was threatened by the emergence of a new formidable villain, who planned to use a secret, unstoppable weapon to conquer China and destroy kung fu forever. Po must look to his past and uncover the secrets of his mysterious origins; only then would he be able to unlock the strength he needs to succeed. Ultimately, Po had to deal with his self-identity, and the person who he’d choose to be.

Awesome Po

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