The TEFCAS Success Formula

Have you failed many times in life? Do you know that failure can actually be a very good thing? Failure is actually an integral part of learning and growth. In fact, I like the saying in NLP that ‘there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback’.

no such thing as failure

Failure = Feedback

I first came across the TEFCAS Success Formula from one of Tony Buzan’s mind-mapping books. Once you understand the TEFCAS formula, you’ll realize that it’s actually our natural way of learning and getting better in whatever areas that we want to master. Many things that we’ve learned in life were mastered through failures, we weren’t born with those skills eg. riding a bike, playing sports, even walking.

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The Power of Identity (Part 1)

In my previous post “Who You Choose To Be?”, I wrote that Po, the main hero in Kung Fu Panda 2, needed a shift at his self-identity before his total transformation of “awesomeness” was complete.

It’s the same with us. Our true potential can only be realized and real lasting change takes place when we do not just make a change at the cognitive, emotional or behavioral level, but all the way at the self-identity level. It’s like a paradigm shift.

What’s a paradigm shift? There are quite a number of explanations, but the one I like best is like this: Imagine you’re given a map to travel a long distance from point A to B. You can make changes and improvements along your journey in many ways: You can walk faster, you can run, you can take fewer breaks and rests in between, or you can hire a vehicle. You can work harder and smarter, but none of these is as big a change as a paradigm shift. A paradigm shift is like exchanging an old (wrong) map with a new (accurate) one.

A paradigm shift changes everything. A change at the level of self-identity is like that.

 

paradigm shift

The shift happens when self-identity changes

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Boost Your Confidence by Asking Empowering Questions

We all have ample of self-confidence within at all times, but we may not feel it all the time. Surely you can think of instances in the past when you had personal power and felt immensely confident. The key is to be able to summon the necessary confidence whenever you want it.

Whenever you’re hesitant ask yourself this, “What is stopping me from having or doing what I want?” This question will shift your frame of mind, internal dialogue and change your internal state into a more confident state.

 

Are you asking Empowering Questions?

 

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How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician (Maxim #5)

Finally, the last Maxim on ‘How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician’. Hope it has been a useful series for my readers. Feed your mind with the final idea.

 

Maxim 5 – Be Prepared

There are always people in your life that you need to impress: your bosses, colleagues, clients, prospects, friends, family members, even strangers. The question is this: At what price would you pay to really make an impression on them? To what end would you go to make your “performances” work to win your audience?

The best magicians would go to whatever extreme end to win their audience over.  Advance preparation is the key. Sometimes the preparation takes place within the first couple of minutes of their tricks while they were casually chatting to their audience. The audience thinks they are just warming up, but in actual fact, the magicians are performing the most crucial parts of the show during that key couple of minutes. It’s called misdirection. Also, many times, preparation can take days, months or even years of careful planning. Magician Michael Webber said that you should be so far in advance ahead of the game that the audience doesn’t know that a game is being played!

In Maxim #4, I wrote about Practicing Your Outs, which is also a type of advance preparation. And there are more.

 

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How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician (Maxim #4)

Two more maxims to go. Today, we’re already on Maxim #4. To read on my earlier posts on the series, here’s Maxim #1, Maxim #2 and Maxim #3.

 

Maxim Four: Practice, Practice, Practice

One of the lessons that all magicians learned early on is to make the difficult look simple. And the only way to do that is through lots of practice. Mastery is only a matter of practice away. And they have to put in the hours to reach the level of mastery to be confident in front of the crowd.

Done poorly, a magic trick can be seen across the room. Done well, it’s invisible even to the person nearest to the magician. To do that, his technique has to be so effortless that there’s no “tell”, no extra tension in the muscles of his hands. Truly invisible.

That’s what magicians do. They devote many years of their lives to practice so hard to perfect techniques that no one can see! They use the mirrors, they use video recordings, and they use real people to practice with. Until they develop the right habits in movement, that they can flow effortlessly during performances.

Nobody wants to watch a performer make something difficult looks difficult. The audience won’t have much confidence in the performer. They like to see perfection, they like to enjoy masterpieces, they expect you to be at your peak and at the top of your game. To wow them at every performance.

How does a top magician like Steve Cohen practice? In his book, he let his readers in on his secret practice routines. Here’s a summary:

 

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