“What Else Could It Mean?”

Have you ever been negatively affected by comments and remarks made by people, or after an unpleasant conversation? If what someone says something that you don’t like or hurt you in some ways, what do you do? You enact a whole scene of anger in your mind! You envision yourself getting upset; you shout at him and tell him some not so nice things. Sometimes people spend hours in such negative, destructive inner dialogues.

Sometimes, these inner dialogues bring about a snowball effect. The more we conduct them, the more we become chained to them and unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked, more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior, judgment and general well-being.

One of the useful strategies I like to use to turn things around is to ask myself this powerful question, “What else could it mean?”

 

"What Else Could It Mean?"

"What Else Could It Mean?"

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How Much Time You’ve Got?

Watched the film In Time starring Justine Timberlake and Amanda Seyfried last night and thought the overall story concept was very intriguing. Its storyline is set in the future when the aging gene is switched off when people reach the age of 25. Time becomes the currency which people use for buying and selling. Their arms are embedded with an internal digital clock to keep track on how much time they’ve got, as the digits slowly tick down to zero. The rich earns “decades” and practically lives forever and their pace of life is rather slow. The poor negotiates and hurries through daily activities. They often borrow, beg or steal enough hours to survive and make it through the day.

While the movie is just so so for me, my mind was captured by its unique concept of time as the ultimate currency. I was wondering what is it like if we were to live our lives one day at a time, not being guaranteed being given another day unless we “deserve” it? We often take our years and decades for granted, procrastinating through life, living like we’re immortals. What if, like the poor in the movie, we’re kept on our toes everyday, every hour and even minutes to make every moment count? It was a sobering thought for me.

Time passes

Time is money?

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Do You Have Someone to Give You “The Push”?

I came across this inspiring video sometime last year which moved me. It’s based on the book Even Eagles Need A Push by David McNally. I was reading into the role of coaching when I found this.

Feed your mind with this video and enjoy the lesson.

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