The Paradoxical Commandments

I came across The Paradoxical Commandments by Dr. Kent M. Keith a few years ago and was struck and greatly encouraged by it. The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders.

Also known as The Anyway Challenge – Do It Anyway, it had been adopted by many well-known leaders like Mother Teresa in the past. I felt inspired because many times I felt like I’ve been going against the flow and I just needed some assurance that I’m doing the right thing, and no matter what I feel sometimes, I should just do what I’ve been doing anyway.

The Paradoxical Commandments have touched the hearts of millions of people around the world. I hope that the Paradoxical Commandments will touch your heart too.

 

The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Your 2 Great Pains In Life

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.” ~ Jim Rohn

Following on my previous post on The 2 Great Teachers, there are also 2 great pains in life. One is SELF-DISCIPLINE, and the other is REGRET. Both pains are something we do not wish to experience and you’d want to avoid them if possible, but like the two great teachers, you have a choice to make. If you do not make a choice, the default pain which will be chosen for you is REGRET.

What are the differences between these two pains, and which is better for you and for me?

Self-discipline

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Your 2 Greatest Teachers In Life

There are, really, only two great teachers in your life. First, is WISDOM. The other is CONSEQUENCE. Neither of them come cheap, but we can learn a great deal from both.

While WISDOM can delight and amaze us, CONSEQUENCE can leave us breathless, but usually not in a good way. We can have either WISDOM or CONSEQUENCE as our teacher at any one time, not both. If we do not choose WISDOM, CONSEQUENCE will be chosen for us by default, and it is by far the tougher of the two, and much costlier.

Now, what are the differences between the two great teachers?

 

The Price Of The Two Teachers

WISDOM teaches us the lessons before we make a mistake. He shows us the mistakes of others who had walked down the paths we’re walking. He warns us where there are dangers ahead. We may not like it but he protects us from harm.

On the other hand, CONSEQUENCE demands our mistakes before he gives us his lessons. And when we do make mistakes, then we’d learned our lessons. Yes, we need to pay a steep price to learn from this teacher. His teachings ring loud and clear, and you’ll not miss the learning, only after you’ve been hurt!

Make no mistake about it, both are extremely effective teachers. Choose this day, which will be your teacher. I’ve learned from CONSEQUENCE that WISDOM is the better teacher for me in the long run. I just cannot afford to pay CONSEQUENCE tuition fees too many times!

As you walk down your journey of continual life-learning, choose wisely who would be your great teacher.

 

 

The Power of Identity (Part 2) – What’s Your Story?

In Part 1, I wrote about the story of the sheep-lion who experienced a profound paradigm shift after he discovered who he really was. A paradigm shift is like exchanging an old, outdated map for a new, accurate one. It’s like a sudden “revelation”, and finally the fogginess disappears and the blur turns into clarity for you.

Have you discovered who you are? How would you redefine your self-identity and rewrite your story to get to where you want to go?

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The Power of Identity (Part 1)

In my previous post “Who You Choose To Be?”, I wrote that Po, the main hero in Kung Fu Panda 2, needed a shift at his self-identity before his total transformation of “awesomeness” was complete.

It’s the same with us. Our true potential can only be realized and real lasting change takes place when we do not just make a change at the cognitive, emotional or behavioral level, but all the way at the self-identity level. It’s like a paradigm shift.

What’s a paradigm shift? There are quite a number of explanations, but the one I like best is like this: Imagine you’re given a map to travel a long distance from point A to B. You can make changes and improvements along your journey in many ways: You can walk faster, you can run, you can take fewer breaks and rests in between, or you can hire a vehicle. You can work harder and smarter, but none of these is as big a change as a paradigm shift. A paradigm shift is like exchanging an old (wrong) map with a new (accurate) one.

A paradigm shift changes everything. A change at the level of self-identity is like that.

 

paradigm shift

The shift happens when self-identity changes

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