Are You Living In Your Strengths?

One of the most invaluable discoveries you can ever find out about yourself is your strengths. If you’re truly able to answer “What are my strengths?”, you’re on your way to fulfilment and satisfaction in work and life.

Two years ago, I came across the StrengthsFinder 2.0 book which was also a ‘strengths’ assessment system. The key take away of the book is this: Your talents are enduring and unique, and your greatest potential for growth is in the area of your greatest strength.

Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned to think first of identifying our weaknesses. For example, parents usually point out the areas in the report card where their children need to improve. All self-improvement books focus on improving our weak spots.

 

Flexing my strengths

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How Much Time You’ve Got?

Watched the film In Time starring Justine Timberlake and Amanda Seyfried last night and thought the overall story concept was very intriguing. Its storyline is set in the future when the aging gene is switched off when people reach the age of 25. Time becomes the currency which people use for buying and selling. Their arms are embedded with an internal digital clock to keep track on how much time they’ve got, as the digits slowly tick down to zero. The rich earns “decades” and practically lives forever and their pace of life is rather slow. The poor negotiates and hurries through daily activities. They often borrow, beg or steal enough hours to survive and make it through the day.

While the movie is just so so for me, my mind was captured by its unique concept of time as the ultimate currency. I was wondering what is it like if we were to live our lives one day at a time, not being guaranteed being given another day unless we “deserve” it? We often take our years and decades for granted, procrastinating through life, living like we’re immortals. What if, like the poor in the movie, we’re kept on our toes everyday, every hour and even minutes to make every moment count? It was a sobering thought for me.

Time passes

Time is money?

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Dying A Little Each Day

As the world is still mourning the passing of Steve Jobs, I began to read about the quotes and wise words this truly remarkable man spoke towards the end of his life. At the end of the day, what truly mattered to this great American visionary wasn’t the billions he’d made, the innovations he’d brought to the marketplace nor the great company he’d built to this day. What truly mattered to him is found in these two quotes:

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important thing I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” ~ Steve Jobs

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Take Responsibility For Your Life

Last weekend, I searched through my list of old DVDs to see which movie to pop into the player while I was doing something else, and out came Rocky Balboa (2006). The first time I watched it, I didn’t get pass the first half of the film due to interruptions. I had been procrastinating to watch the second half of the movie for a quite a long while!

I was actually multi-tasking when watching Rocky Balboa this time, but a scene captured me. It was the scene where Rocky and his junior was talking and then his son said he’s ashamed of what the dad was doing by coming out of retirement to box. Rocky Junior was ashamed of what people might say while his dad was chasing after his dream of making an unlikely comeback. What Rocky said to his son shook me on the inside.

never give up

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