How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician (Maxim #3)

Ok, here we are on Day 3 of the series. To read my earlier posts in the series, here’s Maxim #1 and Maxim #2.

 

Maxim Three: Don’t State – Suggest

Magicians do not directly state that they have magical powers, but they skilfully and subtly “suggest” that that’s the case. They’d lead their audience to come to this belief, and form this conclusion in their own mind.

Who will the audience believe more, you or themselves?

People will believe their own opinions and conclusions than yours. When you flat out make a statement, it’s often open up for debate. People may agree with you as much as they may disagree. Instead, if you give a suggestion, people may reason it for themselves and form their own conclusion and judgment based on your suggestion. And that’s more believable to them, because it’s THEIR conclusion, and they arrive there themselves.  Once people feel they’re drawn to their own conclusion, you’ve planted in your intended message without ever stating it outright.

 

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How to Develop Magical Confidence – Secrets of a Magician (Maxim #2)

This is a continuation from yesterday’s post. So, here’s the second secret.

 

Maxim Two:  Expect Success

When a pro magician performs a trick, he knows it’s surely going to work. He’d practiced it countless of times that he’s so confident showing it to others. What people normally would not realize is, that there are several possible endings to a trick. He’d plan for multiple scenarios and different endings so that he’s flexible to changes in case things go wrong, or certain secrets were accidentally exposed. Any bump or obstacle can be used as part of the show with an alternative ending. But the audience, of course, only sees one ending, and they’d thought that’s the only possible ending. They’d never know how the trick is supposed to end.

The concept of “knowing the endings” and taking charge of them, gives great confidence to magicians. They can always expect a positive outcome no matter what happens during the show and how the audience responds.

It’s the goal of the magicians, then, to begin their performances with the expectation to succeed no matter what. They way to do this is to think ahead for every possible desirable outcomes.

 

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12 Reasons Why I Read E-Books Instead of “Real” Books

In my previous post Leaders Are Readers, I wrote how I developed my joy and habit of reading since I was a kid. Over the years, I’ve kinda slowed down in buying physical books and turned to buying e-books (electronic) instead.

 

My History of Using E-Books

I bought my first e-book (not counting PDFs on PC) when I had my first hand-held device which was a Palm TX about seven years back. Since then, I’ve bought and downloaded hundreds more e-books. I also had a few Windows Mobile hand-held devices and currently, I’m using a Kindle 3. All my devices are able to sync with my PC/notebook which keep backups of the e-books.

Some book lovers and purists will protest, “no digital books”, “real books all the way” and “nothing can substitute the real thing!” They’d oppose and resist the “onslaught” of e-book technology, claiming that it’ll ruin their simple reading pleasures. “Old school is the way to go”, they’d say. I don’t blame them. I do admit that nothing can replace the sensations of holding a beautiful book in the palm of your hands: the touch, the smell and the sound of flipping through the pages. Reading is an experience. And I do still buy good “real” books sometimes, especially when I can’t find the electronic version.

So, why do I love e-books?

 

Here are My 12 Reasons

I read electronic books

Amazon Kindle 3

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Leaders are Readers

“Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers” ~Harry S. Truman

I developed the habit of feeding my mind with voracious reading since I was a little boy. Whenever I’d go out with my family to the shopping mall, I’d always end up at the bookstore section. It’s not unusual for me to spend at least a couple of hours there.

 

Books….books…books….

Over the years, my list of books have grown into libraries. These days, I’d also buy electronic books instead of physical ones. I’ve even subscribed myself to audio books membership with Audible for more than two years. I like listening to audio books when I couldn’t read, like when I’m driving or when I simply wanna rest my eyes on bed.

My books have become my valued personal asset. They’re mostly non-fictions, in the areas of personal development, career, health, sports/fitness, finance, travel and spiritual. If someone comes to my home and see the collections I have (both physical and electronic), he’d be impressed.

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Knowing What You Want Gives Clarity and Purpose

Let’s revisit the first question in yesterday’s post “What do you want?” again.

Recently, I sat in a planning meeting with a group of young committees of a local organization. In the middle of an agenda, the leader stated adamantly who he doesn’t want to work with and what he doesn’t want to experience again because of a past fallout. But when asked what is it that he really wants for this team to achieve, he paused silently and thought for a while, and then simply uttered a blank “errrmmm….”.

I wasn’t sure if the leader provided any useful direction to his project team in the first place. It could have helped if he explicitly expressed his intentions and purpose to clarify the main objectives and the desired outcomes.

It’s like providing a road map without knowing where to go; the leader was telling his team where not to go and what not to do, but didn’t state the destination and how to get there! Did he know his desired destination in the first place? I really couldn’t tell! He was more driven to avoid past pains than to move towards something new. Fine. Maybe he had learned something useful from his past undertakings which had shaped his present approach, but his team doesn’t know the pain and didn’t need to. They didn’t need to know something unknown to move away from, but something to move towards to. Something clear, so they could fix their eyes on the target. Isn’t that more useful?

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