The Power of Identity (Part 2) – What’s Your Story?

In Part 1, I wrote about the story of the sheep-lion who experienced a profound paradigm shift after he discovered who he really was. A paradigm shift is like exchanging an old, outdated map for a new, accurate one. It’s like a sudden “revelation”, and finally the fogginess disappears and the blur turns into clarity for you.

Have you discovered who you are? How would you redefine your self-identity and rewrite your story to get to where you want to go?

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The Power of Identity (Part 1)

In my previous post “Who You Choose To Be?”, I wrote that Po, the main hero in Kung Fu Panda 2, needed a shift at his self-identity before his total transformation of “awesomeness” was complete.

It’s the same with us. Our true potential can only be realized and real lasting change takes place when we do not just make a change at the cognitive, emotional or behavioral level, but all the way at the self-identity level. It’s like a paradigm shift.

What’s a paradigm shift? There are quite a number of explanations, but the one I like best is like this: Imagine you’re given a map to travel a long distance from point A to B. You can make changes and improvements along your journey in many ways: You can walk faster, you can run, you can take fewer breaks and rests in between, or you can hire a vehicle. You can work harder and smarter, but none of these is as big a change as a paradigm shift. A paradigm shift is like exchanging an old (wrong) map with a new (accurate) one.

A paradigm shift changes everything. A change at the level of self-identity is like that.

 

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The shift happens when self-identity changes

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Do You Often Wonder What Others Think Of You?

Quite some time ago, I posted this quote on my Facebook status which got many of my friends talking and commenting:

“When you’re 18, you worry what others think about you. When you’re 40, you don’t give a darn what others think about you. When you’re 60, you realize that nobody has been thinking about you at all”. ~ Daniel Amen

I learned of this 18/40/60 rule from one of Jack Canfield’s audio programs. It brought a few chuckles just by thinking about the quote, but hey, it’s probably true! Do you realize how many times you’ve wasted precious time thinking about the opinions of our parents, partners, friends and colleagues when surprise, surprise, they’ve also been busy thinking about what you think of them all these while!



Oh, really??

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Increasing Your Self-Esteem by Liking Yourself

Self-esteem really matters. The origin of the word esteem comes from the Latin word aestimare, which literally means ‘to put value on’, or ‘to estimate’. Therefore, self-esteem means the value we put on ourselves.

One of the main key factors that determine a healthy level of self-esteem is a strong sense of self. Your capacity of what you can do and achieve in life can only be limited by your self-image, how you see yourself, and how you value yourself. It’s been said that many lottery winners lose almost all of their windfall money quickly, and many successful multi-millionaire businessmen whose business are wiped out overnight often bounce back and recover quickly. Although their fortune changed drastically, their self-value has not. The level of wealth is ‘equalized’ by the value that we put on ourselves. Wealth is only one of the many indicators, there are also social, health, career etc.

So, how can you enhance your sense of self?

 

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Improve Your Self-Image by Improving Your Self-Talk

“The only difference between the best performance and the worst performance is the variation in our self-talk.” ~ Dorothy and Bette Harris

Suppose we could plug a set of headphones that are able to capture the thoughts of the people around us and listen to their inner conversations with themselves, what would we hear?

Suppose we could record our own inner voices that run throughout the day, and play them aloud at the end of each day, will we be shocked by what we would hear?

We carry conversations with ourselves all the time. If we can measure every statement that we make to ourselves, how many negative ones will we catch? Here are some typical inner dialog examples:

“I hate the alarm clock. I dread getting up and going to work”.

“Shucks! I’m running late again”.

“Not another bad hair day”.

“I think Sue and Jane are talking behind my back again”.

“I’m just not good at time management.”

“I’m not productive at all this week”.

“I’m too tired for my gym workout today. I’ll do it tomorrow”.

“This is the third time I’ve made the same mistake. Stupid me”.

“I feel so unloved”.

“I feel nervous about the presentation. I hope nobody will notice my shaking hands”.

“Why can’t I attract more success and money?”

“I just lack self-confidence. I can’t win this.”

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