“What Else Could It Mean?”

Have you ever been negatively affected by comments and remarks made by people, or after an unpleasant conversation? If what someone says something that you don’t like or hurt you in some ways, what do you do? You enact a whole scene of anger in your mind! You envision yourself getting upset; you shout at him and tell him some not so nice things. Sometimes people spend hours in such negative, destructive inner dialogues.

Sometimes, these inner dialogues bring about a snowball effect. The more we conduct them, the more we become chained to them and unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked, more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on the behavior, judgment and general well-being.

One of the useful strategies I like to use to turn things around is to ask myself this powerful question, “What else could it mean?”

 

"What Else Could It Mean?"

"What Else Could It Mean?"

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Are You Living In Your Strengths?

One of the most invaluable discoveries you can ever find out about yourself is your strengths. If you’re truly able to answer “What are my strengths?”, you’re on your way to fulfilment and satisfaction in work and life.

Two years ago, I came across the StrengthsFinder 2.0 book which was also a ‘strengths’ assessment system. The key take away of the book is this: Your talents are enduring and unique, and your greatest potential for growth is in the area of your greatest strength.

Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned to think first of identifying our weaknesses. For example, parents usually point out the areas in the report card where their children need to improve. All self-improvement books focus on improving our weak spots.

 

Flexing my strengths

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9 Powerful Questions To Get What You Want

Here are 9 (and a bonus) powerful, coaching questions you can use in your journey of personal development to get what you want in any area of your life:

 

1. What do you want?

Nothing is more important and straightforward than this fundamental question. What do you want in your life? Many adults whom I’ve asked this question often take a long time on this. However, they have no problem telling me what they do not want through many life experiences and pains they’ve gone through. On the other hand, when this question is presented to little children, their face would instantly beamed up and they do not hesitate to make known what they want, loud and clear, and repeatedly. Unlike grown ups, their clarity are not dulled by past disappointments and failures.

By looking at the wheel of life, identify and write down what do you want in each area of your life. You can choose one obvious area for improvement, for a start. If you do not know, ask yourself this “What if I do know? What if I have childlike faith, what do I want?”

 

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Take Responsibility For Your Life

Last weekend, I searched through my list of old DVDs to see which movie to pop into the player while I was doing something else, and out came Rocky Balboa (2006). The first time I watched it, I didn’t get pass the first half of the film due to interruptions. I had been procrastinating to watch the second half of the movie for a quite a long while!

I was actually multi-tasking when watching Rocky Balboa this time, but a scene captured me. It was the scene where Rocky and his junior was talking and then his son said he’s ashamed of what the dad was doing by coming out of retirement to box. Rocky Junior was ashamed of what people might say while his dad was chasing after his dream of making an unlikely comeback. What Rocky said to his son shook me on the inside.

never give up

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The Paradoxical Commandments

I came across The Paradoxical Commandments by Dr. Kent M. Keith a few years ago and was struck and greatly encouraged by it. The Paradoxical Commandments were written by Kent M. Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders.

Also known as The Anyway Challenge – Do It Anyway, it had been adopted by many well-known leaders like Mother Teresa in the past. I felt inspired because many times I felt like I’ve been going against the flow and I just needed some assurance that I’m doing the right thing, and no matter what I feel sometimes, I should just do what I’ve been doing anyway.

The Paradoxical Commandments have touched the hearts of millions of people around the world. I hope that the Paradoxical Commandments will touch your heart too.

 

The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.